“Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.” Proverbs 31:11(NIV)
Confidence and value. Those are words that we teach our girls from the time they are born. We encourage them to live with confidence, walk with their heads held high, and if they make a mistake, they are to do it confidently so everyone around them will think they meant to do it.
We walk behind our girls with an imaginary megaphone, cheering for them and remind them that they have value. We boost their spirits by constantly stressing that they deserve nothing less than the best because they are worth it.
Those are both important lessons for us and our daughters to hear and remember. Yet, those qualities also need to describe how others feel about us and our girls.
One of the Dictionary.com definitions of confidence is full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing.
Total and complete trust
No matter which box you check off under “marital status,” this applies to you.
If you check any category of single, how do others perceive you? If you are married and/or have children, then find out how your husband and children view you. Regardless of where you fall, having the confidence of others is a quality we should all be striving for.
Here are some questions to help you determine your trustworthiness.
Are you a woman others can count on?
Do your friends know if they shared something with you, it will stay with you?
Does your boss know you will complete your tasks in a timely manner and to the best of your ability?
Do people who depend on you for volunteer positions know you will show up and serve when you are scheduled to?
For married women in general, can your husband trust you to be faithful to him?
Can he trust that you will complete your designated responsibilities?
For stay-at-home-moms, does your husband have total and complete trust in you while he is out at work all day?
The list could go on, but you get the idea. We want to be women that others have confidence in.
“…and lacks nothing of value.”
Value comes in many forms, but we’re only going to touch on two- money and time.
So many times we equate value with monetary issues. It’s easy to. We see how much value something has by checking the price tag. And you’ve heard the phrase, “time is money.” It’s one of the catch phrases of the business world. But how does this apply to us in the here and now?
Do we use our financial resources wisely?
Do we budget our expenses so we are not left wondering where our money has flown off to?
For stay-at-home-moms, do we appreciate not only the paycheck, but the man who earns and brings it home?
We have each been allotted 24 hours per day. That equates to 1,440 minutes per day, or 86,400 seconds. In one year, that equals 525,600 minutes! But how we spend our time will determine the true value of our time.
Do we spend enough time with those we love?
Do we really give them our attention and focus when we are with them?
Do we allow ourselves to get distracted by the urgent and waste time that could have been spent on the important?
This week, as we memorize Proverbs 31:11, ask God to show you the areas you can improve your trustworthiness and the value you place on time and money.
You can find other posts in this series here.