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The messages our little girls are receiving on a daily basis are so conflicting.
As mothers, we try to teach them to conduct themselves as little ladies, making sure that they conduct themselves in God honoring ways and dress in ways that maintain their innocence. Yet when they turn on the latest kid show, style and modesty seem to clash in a battle for the innocence and purity of our girls.
But, sweet Mama, you are not alone!
Dannah Gresh was the mom of a tween. She not only saw what was going on in the popular culture, but she chose to do something about it. She began taking her daughter on dates planned out with the express purpose of teaching principles of godliness, beauty, and modesty while spending a meaningful time together.
After being encouraged by her husband to put these dates into a book for other mothers to do with their daughters, Secret Keeper Girl took off and became a touring program which invites mothers and daughters to come together for a night of high energy fun, laughter, and teaching moments.
Not only is the music used during the program high energy, but the words are powerful and easy to catch on to and remember. We purchased the Secret Keeper Girl soundtrack, and have been dancing and singing our way through our chores while having biblical truths weave their way into our hearts with each beat in the music.
We recently had the opportunity to not just attend a Secret Keeper Girl event, but to be in the actual program with several other moms and daughters from our church. My daughter and I are still talking about our time at SKG and how much we look forward to making this a yearly event.
The most impactful moment of the evening for me was when each mom was asked to pray over her daughter. I have always prayed for my children, but to have my daughter hear my heart, to have her hear me take her to the throne of God affected me more than I expected it to. I got as far as “Dear God,” when my voice cracked. I eventually got the rest of my prayer for her out, and she instantly snuggled into me and we pretty much sat snuggled up to each other throughout the rest of the evening.
Many times, after having such an incredible experience, there is a bit of a let down because the experience cannot continue. However, Dannah Gresh has written so many mother/daughter (and even father/daughter) activities, that the fun just keeps on going. From mother/daughter devotionals to books on encouraging girls to recognize the true value God places on them, there are enough materials to keep a mom and her girl going for quite some time.
One of my favorite take aways from this event was the intentional use of date time with my daughter. I purchased the book, 8 Great Dates for Moms and Daughters: How to Talk About True Beauty, Cool Fashion, and…Modesty! by Dannah Gresh, and we are excited to start working our way through it. I am thankful for the opportunity to be the one to talk my daughter through modesty, beauty, and fashion, and that I have the opportunity to build her views on these topics from the foundation.
If you and your girl have an opportunity to go to a SKG event, let me encourage you to go. You will not regret it. For my girl, it was a beautiful evening reminding her that she is a princess- created and loved by the God of the Universe.